I recently received an e-mail from someone asking me my advice about ex gf/bf. I'm not a professional but I'll tell what I think.
Why do we have exes? We have exes because something along the line of the relationship something went wrong. My problem is why do folks allow exes to remain in there lives after the relationship has ended and why is it that the ex feel they can have say so on whats goes on in there exes your life ?
An ex is only gonna don't what you let them do. Once you say its over, it should be over. But some folks think just like that Heather Headley song " in my mind....I'll always be his lady....in my mind I'll always be his girl." NO it doesn't work like that. That's how folks get there feelings hurt. You can't lead people on for a minute but when your get tired of them you wanna throw the "your my ex" card in there face. Its not right nor fair.
So in the words of RL (BLACKSTREET) and Deborah Cox, you better tell that ex "We can't be friends."
Wednesday, September 9, 2009
Sunday, August 30, 2009
Just My Thoughts #1
First and foremost, we all have our flaws. There is no one who is perfect but God himself.
BUT.....why is it that most women in 2009 are trying to be "MISS INDEPENDENT" but as soon as they get mad the first thing out of there mouth is...." you don't do nothing from me ...I take care of myself." I believe if these "MISS INDEPENDENT" women stop trying to be power rangers and let a man take his place as a man, there will be no problem. Women need to understand, most men love to satisfy the women on our arm, but you make it very difficult when you wanna wear the pants and the skirt too. I understand that there are some sorry men but not all of us are. A relationship is suppose be to a 50%-50% NOT 70%-30%.
Why is it when a woman calls her man's cell phone and he doesn't answer, the first thing they assume is that.... A-he is on the phone with another women or B-he is laid up with another woman. The saying is when you assume, you make an ass of yourself. Always assuming that your man is cheating only drives a deeper hole in a relationship. If you can't trust that he is just busy and can't get the phone right away, then you need to rethink your relationship with him.
I sum this up to say most women are always assuming that there other half is cheating or doing something in the street. Little do they know, we know the game cause were playing it just like you. Women use this little tool or game as an escape so they can do there little dirt in the street. Why is it a must you keep your phone on silent but when mine is on silent your assuming something? Why is it that you claim to be with Kim, but Kim is calling the house looking for you? I just don't understand.
Now days relationships don't mean a thing. The problem is that there is no respect for each other. How can you live with Bob and sleep next to him every night but you texting John talking about how much you love him and how much you want to be with him. We got to do better.
Remember...its things like this that can get somebody hurt!!!!
BUT.....why is it that most women in 2009 are trying to be "MISS INDEPENDENT" but as soon as they get mad the first thing out of there mouth is...." you don't do nothing from me ...I take care of myself." I believe if these "MISS INDEPENDENT" women stop trying to be power rangers and let a man take his place as a man, there will be no problem. Women need to understand, most men love to satisfy the women on our arm, but you make it very difficult when you wanna wear the pants and the skirt too. I understand that there are some sorry men but not all of us are. A relationship is suppose be to a 50%-50% NOT 70%-30%.
Why is it when a woman calls her man's cell phone and he doesn't answer, the first thing they assume is that.... A-he is on the phone with another women or B-he is laid up with another woman. The saying is when you assume, you make an ass of yourself. Always assuming that your man is cheating only drives a deeper hole in a relationship. If you can't trust that he is just busy and can't get the phone right away, then you need to rethink your relationship with him.
I sum this up to say most women are always assuming that there other half is cheating or doing something in the street. Little do they know, we know the game cause were playing it just like you. Women use this little tool or game as an escape so they can do there little dirt in the street. Why is it a must you keep your phone on silent but when mine is on silent your assuming something? Why is it that you claim to be with Kim, but Kim is calling the house looking for you? I just don't understand.
Now days relationships don't mean a thing. The problem is that there is no respect for each other. How can you live with Bob and sleep next to him every night but you texting John talking about how much you love him and how much you want to be with him. We got to do better.
Remember...its things like this that can get somebody hurt!!!!
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